One thing that military spouses learn is how to wait. In the military world there is a lot of "hurry up and wait" to do. You hurry to get to the doc's office and then you and your 3 sick kids wait for hours to see the doctor. You do a LOT of waiting. It is the nature of the beast.
The hardest waiting period is during a deployment. Your husband leaves, but before the deployment even officially starts he is gone quite a bit with training and preparation. Spouses deal with this because they know that all the training is going to help him be as safe as possible while he is gone, in a place where people want to kill him, so you want your spouse to have all the training possible.
But, then the deployment happens and no longer is GI Joe home on the weekends, he is out there fighting and protecting America. You are proud of him, and you stand behind and beside him, and you hold down the fort. All the while you go about life, but you are waiting for that next phone call, e-mail or video conference, where you can be assured that for now, he is still safe and doing what he loves.
Finally, the deployment is coming to an end. Soon your beloved will be back in your arms! You will get to hug, kiss (and yes more) and see him again. And, eventually you two will settle back into the domestic scene where you are getting tired of always picking up his dirty socks, and wondering when he will learn to just put the blender away when he is finished! Yet, you don't really mind all that much, because he is home!
Before the daily routine of married can settle back to your normal you have to wait for him to arrive. The US military is the greatest military in the history of the world, but it has its share of quirks. One of them being time. You may be told that GI Joe will arrive home at 1330 hours on March 18, but that isn't written in concrete. Waiting to be able to hold him in your arms once again requires patience. You know that he will eventually be home, but the given time is just a rough estimate.
Being a military wife is a high calling, it is an awesome responsibility, and it has many perks. There is nothing like the military for camraderie and support through all of life's ups and downs, but it does require that you learn patience, and I believe much prayer as well. A good prayer time will help you get through all the waiting that is necessary in this life. Prayer is the fastest road to patience!
-JLK-
Saturday, February 20, 2010
Thursday, February 11, 2010
Online Dating
Sorry to have ignored this blog for over a month! My life is crazy busy (in mostly good ways) right now and sadly the blog has been low on my priority list, but I have a few moments so I thought I'd share some of the ramblings from my crazy brain.
Yesterday I was perusing the internet while on campus and I stopped by www.christiancafe.com. Looking at some the ads/profiles (because really that is what they are--when we log onto one of those sites we are advertising ourselves, trying to sell ourselves to the person that could become our soul mate).
I will admit that I've made profiles on eharmony, match.com and christiancafe, but lo and behold I didn't meet my soul mate through online dating. Maybe it is because I am too cynical. I don't trust that people are who they really say they are online. It is too easy to put up a fake picture and manufacture some things--- fudge on the questions about looks.
On the other hand I do have a good friend that is married to a guy she met in an online chat room and they seem really happy. They are not the only couple I know that started with an online relationship. It can work--there are lots of testimonials to that affect, I am just not sure it is for me.
First of all, I'm not good at the profile. A lot of the questions that ask me to describe myself make me feel like I'm bragging and that is just weird, it isn't me. Some of you might think that is weird because I'm an author and I've written an autobiography. But an autobiography is different from a dating proflie. In my book I air EVERYTHING--the good and the bad, it is a story it isn't an ad saying "Pick Me I'm the Best!"
Looking at the site just reminded of what time of the year it is--Sunday is Daytona Day 2010--otherwise known (to non NASCAR fans) as Valentine's Day. It is a day dedicated to love and romance which is awesome unless you are single or in a relationship where love and romance are not forefront and then it is a somewhat depressing day.
Online dating is big business these days--especially around the holidays when people don't want to be alone. While I am not convinced that it is the best path for a person like me, I do see that it works and in this century I like to think that if it works then go for it. Online dating can be fun. I have enjoyed seeing who I am matched with. It is interesting and exciting. Maybe I haven't met Mr. Right through any of the sites, but I do see their validity and the excitement of online dating, especially in a world that is as career focused as ours. Who has time to go to the places where you might meet someone worthy, especially when he is just a website away???
-ME-
Yesterday I was perusing the internet while on campus and I stopped by www.christiancafe.com. Looking at some the ads/profiles (because really that is what they are--when we log onto one of those sites we are advertising ourselves, trying to sell ourselves to the person that could become our soul mate).
I will admit that I've made profiles on eharmony, match.com and christiancafe, but lo and behold I didn't meet my soul mate through online dating. Maybe it is because I am too cynical. I don't trust that people are who they really say they are online. It is too easy to put up a fake picture and manufacture some things--- fudge on the questions about looks.
On the other hand I do have a good friend that is married to a guy she met in an online chat room and they seem really happy. They are not the only couple I know that started with an online relationship. It can work--there are lots of testimonials to that affect, I am just not sure it is for me.
First of all, I'm not good at the profile. A lot of the questions that ask me to describe myself make me feel like I'm bragging and that is just weird, it isn't me. Some of you might think that is weird because I'm an author and I've written an autobiography. But an autobiography is different from a dating proflie. In my book I air EVERYTHING--the good and the bad, it is a story it isn't an ad saying "Pick Me I'm the Best!"
Looking at the site just reminded of what time of the year it is--Sunday is Daytona Day 2010--otherwise known (to non NASCAR fans) as Valentine's Day. It is a day dedicated to love and romance which is awesome unless you are single or in a relationship where love and romance are not forefront and then it is a somewhat depressing day.
Online dating is big business these days--especially around the holidays when people don't want to be alone. While I am not convinced that it is the best path for a person like me, I do see that it works and in this century I like to think that if it works then go for it. Online dating can be fun. I have enjoyed seeing who I am matched with. It is interesting and exciting. Maybe I haven't met Mr. Right through any of the sites, but I do see their validity and the excitement of online dating, especially in a world that is as career focused as ours. Who has time to go to the places where you might meet someone worthy, especially when he is just a website away???
-ME-
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