Wednesday, June 30, 2010

Sitcoms

I just love sitcoms: Friends, Seinfeld, Andy Griffith, MASH, Reba, Perfect Strangers, Full House, Fresh Prince, Home Improvement, etc. There is so much to love in the half an hour situational comedies. The best part is that whatever problem the characters face you know it will be solved in a funny way by the end of the episode, or maybe carried over for 1 or 2, but you know that the problem WILL be solved and you will laugh through it.

There are times when I really wish my life was a sitcom. I wish I could solve my problems as easily as the writers do in Hollywood on the shows. Unfortunately my life is not a sitcom, it's reality. And because of that there is no writer that is going to come along and solve today's problem for me in a funny way. I have to figure it out all on my own.

Well...that's not totally true I do have the Lord to turn to, in fact I shouldn't have to TURN to Him, I should already be focused on Him. I think that is where most of my problems come from- I take my eyes off of God and focus on the world, on the temporary. In Jeremiah 29 we are told that God has plans for each of us, and they are good plans, plans that will benefit us. If I stay focus on Him, I'll be able to see what those plans are. Probably not all at once, but I will see more of the plan than I do when I'm focused elsewhere.

For July my spiritual goal is to stay more focused on the Lord and less focused on the obstacles. My focus needs to be upward.

Tuesday, June 22, 2010

Jesus Wept

By now we all know that no one escapes this life alive. Because of sin in the world we all must pay the price, we all must die. Praise the Lord that it is just one death. Due to Christ's sacrifice on the cross, and His resurrection, we have the chance to spend eternity in Heaven! All we have to do is believe and accept the gift and Heaven awaits us!

It is exciting to read the Bible passages and think about Heaven. It is even more exciting to know that what we are imagining does not even come close to how amazing and truly awesome Heaven is. The best part of Heaven is not the streets of gold, the crystal sea, or the reunion with loved ones. Though, all those are perfectly wonderful things. The best part of Heaven is the throne room. The room where Christ sits at the right hand of the Father. The room where will be bowing down and singing praises to our Lord and Savior. Hallelujah!

Heaven is a wonderful place, and it IS filled with glory and grace. Yet, even as we know that our loved ones that trusted Christ are there NOW it doesn't take away the grief that comes one God calls one of them home. Grief is a godly emotion. Christ grieved.

Think about that...JESUS CHRIST GRIEVED. God the Son, who has reigned in Heaven from before time began, grieved. His friend had just died and Christ wept. Jesus knew where Lazarus was, Jesus came to us from Heaven, and still he wept when his friend died. Weeping and grief is godly. When God calls one of the saints home, it means that for those of us left, there is a long term good-bye.

We may know that our loved one is in Heaven, but that doesn't mean that the days w/o them here are easy. When a spouse dies they leave a hole-the bed is no longer as warm at night and things that used to annoy us, are missed. You miss having to pick up after them, wash their dishes and hear them snoring. There is a hole. They may be in Heaven, but you are left to pick up the pieces, to fashion a life and figure out where God wants you now.

As Christians we are called to walk the straight and narrow path, not the smooth and easy one. The joy is that Christ is always with us. He won't always shield us from pain and suffering, from having to answer life's toughest questions. But he will always be there beside us, behind us, before us and holding us. If we call out to Him, He will be there, He will hear and He will provide an answer. He promised to do all that. "Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks, the door will be opened." (Matt. 7:7-8)

We can all name people that we love and that have finished their race. We can name people that we miss dearly, that we still grieve for some days. It is ok to miss them, to grieve for them, to weep. But just like Jesus, we need to continue to look to God, to give our tears to God and to live while we are here. As the wise king Solomon said in Ecc. 3:
"1 There is a time for everything,
and a season for every activity under heaven:

2 a time to be born and a time to die,
a time to plant and a time to uproot,

3 a time to kill and a time to heal,
a time to tear down and a time to build,

4 a time to weep and a time to laugh,
a time to mourn and a time to dance,

5 a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them,
a time to embrace and a time to refrain,

6 a time to search and a time to give up,
a time to keep and a time to throw away,

7 a time to tear and a time to mend,
a time to be silent and a time to speak,

8 a time to love and a time to hate,
a time for war and a time for peace."

Make the most of each moment, of each time you are in. Create a "Bucket List" and do those things. Make your life full of memories, family and friends. And by gosh, if you love someone hurry up and show it!

Thursday, June 17, 2010

Death

Right now I am busy praying for a friend who is in a hospital fighting for his life. He was diagnosed a few days ago with "Neisseria Meningitidis" It is a form of meningitis, which is quite deadly-approximately 20% of adults that are diagnosed with NM will not make it, even with proper treatment.

My friend is married to a girl that I have known my whole life. She is a sweetheart, and they are 6 months pregnant with their first child, a little boy. The whole situation is just awful. I feel for N as he fights for his life against this deadly invader in his body. But more than that I just can't imagine what H is going through. Worried that her husband won't make it, but praying that he does.

In the back of her mind has to be the thought, of "what will I do if God takes N home?" She will be a widow raising a newborn. Yes, she has a wonderful family that will support her. She has an AMAZING God that will get her through, and she has friends. All of that is necessary.

The situation gives me a chance to ponder death. It happens to all of us, yet we don't really like to think about it. Yeah we joke about it, and we go to action flicks where we watch the hero kill a plethora of bad guys in many creative ways. But, when it comes down to it, death is serious and we shy away from any serious discussion of death. Even, as Christians, who know what happens after we die, we don't like to talk about it.

I know that my great, great Aunt that just died is in Heaven. She was 98 and God called her home. As hard as it is to say good-bye to a loved one, if we know that they were Christians, than we know that they are in a much better place, and I don't mean that as a cliche. And, at 98 she lived a long life and was loved by many and had many fun hobbies. She was a huge fan of the Redskins and enjoyed bowling. So, yeah it is always a bit sad to say good-bye and bury a family member.

But, it is situations like N's that just tear at the heartstrings. N is still young-in his mid 30's. He hasn't lived a full life yet. He is just starting to grow his family. If he were to be called home, he would be leaving his wife and child behind to blaze a different trail than H would have imagined.

Most of us don't get married planning on starting a family and while on the cusp of that we have to bury our spouse. People get married and plan on it lasting for half a century or more. Yet, DEATH comes and claims his victims.

As Christians, life after the death of a spouse is hard. We all grieve. Knowing that our loved one is up worshiping Jesus at His feet is comforting, but it doesn't fill the empty seat at the table, it doesn't warm a cold bed, or dirty extra dishes. It is exciting knowing that our loved is up there with Jesus and the saints. We can smile knowing that they have finished their race. But, we also grieve because our hearts want them back here, we want to hold, hug and love them in person. Death may be a temporary good-bye, but it is the hardest one.

On one hand you want to pray that God will heal the sick and give him 50 more years on earth with his family, because the family needs him. He is integral to daily life in the house. His presence is a comfort and joy to those around. On the other hand, you want to pray that God would release him from suffering, even if that means taking him to Heaven.

Death, is a huge subject because it is so final and it affects EVERYONE. No one is going to live forever. It is important that we know what is going to happen after this life is over. There are so many people with so many theories. When all you have to do is open the Bible and read it to know the truth.

Tuesday, June 15, 2010

Life...Not Always So Easy

There are days, and today is one of them where I really just want to sock it to Adam and Eve for screwing everything up. They had it made! They were living in a paradise that is better than we could ever imagine, there were able to walk around with GOD, and the food...AMAZING! And I bet Eve never got fat in The Garden. And "The Curse" the monthly visitor of every female...yeah it didn't exist.

And they RUINED it for the rest of us! All they had to do was avoid 1 little tree...they had a garden full of trees and plants, each yummier than the last. And they ruined it! I know, I know Adam and Eve get a bum rap, and I should forgive them, because God has. Still, today is one of those days where it is hard.

Life is full of so many miraculous, wonderful moments. It is full of times that take your breath away (in a good sense). Life is also full of tough times as well. Right now, I'm experiencing both and it is a conundrum.

There is so much to enjoy in my life right now: I have an amazing SO, wonderful friends that have my back through all of the ups and downs. I have a family that loves me and would (and has done) anything for me. I have a new to me car that I'm enjoying, and I have a church full of people that care. Not to mention I have a lot of exciting work on my book to do, and for the most part I'm healthy.

Yeah, I have the R.A. and I'm just getting over a bout of tonsilitis. But, I'm healthy. I can see, hear, touch, smell, swallow, run, skip, flip. Sometimes not as quickly or easily as other times, but overall I'm healthy.

As much good as there is in my life right now, there is also the flip side.

I NEED a new job, like YESTERDAY and that isn't an easy thing to find in this economy. As I was telling a friend, I find myself in the over qualified for many jobs, but under qualified and under experienced for others. Not cool. That, and waitressing is out because my joints couldn't handle a job like that. BAH HUMBUG. So, I'm applying to anything that looks like a possibility and then I'm praying. Something will turn up, God has always provided in the past, and I know HE will continue to do so. It might not be in the way I expect or want, but HE promised to take care of me.

One of my childhood friends is pregnant with her first child and right now she is praying and watching her husband fight for his life. He has a rare and deadly bacterial infection and is in a critical stage. I am also praying, and I know that prayer is HUGE. Prayer is walking up to God and saying, "Please help". Asking GOD--just take a moment to process that. Yet, it doesn't always seem like much, we humans want to DO something.

So life is good, it is very good, but not always easy.

Wednesday, June 9, 2010

The Economy and Public Service

One of the things that I have noticed in my life, since the economy took a turn for harder times, is that I can't afford to support as many non-profits. I wish I could, but I have to be able to support myself first before I can help others.

I was reading a blog by an army wife friend of mine and on her blog she was talking about this little boy she knows who is suffering from cancer and needs lots of blood transfusions. The stickler being that he has a rare type of blood, only 2% of the population shares his blood type, so getting enough blood is getting harder and harder, and to compound the problem, he is needing the transfusions MORE often, so as the supply is dwindling, his need is getting bigger.

Reading the blog just reminded me that yeah I don't have much in the way of money, and money is necessary, but there are so many other ways to help others in need. Right now I can't give blood, as I'm sick, and I can't go places because I have NO car, but I will in a couple of days (AMEN!) and soon I'll be able to get around.

Volunteerism is one of the cheapest ways to show the love of Christ to others. We all have talents and God wants us to use them. Some of us are gifted with numbers, so helping out at a non-profit and doing "their books" would be a huge service, then they wouldn't have to pay someone else, and that money could be used to provide the service they want to provide (be it a woman's shelter, a food pantry, an after school program, etc).

Or, we can ALL do some form of manual labor-sewing, painting, construction, cleaning. You and I may not be able to afford to buy a family their monthly groceries, but we can do things for them around the house, take them to job interviews, etc. We could help clean an older person's house.

All this to simply say that a down turned economy, school bills, doctor bills, all of that shouldn't get in our way of putting the love of Christ in action. We just need to be a little bit creative. :-)

Tuesday, June 8, 2010

Symbolism

Earlier today I was catching up on reading some of my favorite blogs--wanted to know what friends, profs, associates, and other bloggers were up to. And quite frankly I'm just trying to fill the time before I head off to my doctor's appointment, to figure out why my throat is getting worse and not better.

On one blog I read there was a discussion on the American flag and peace symbols, from a milspouse's POV. Ever since I read that post I've been cogitating on what the 2 ladies had to say and their thoughts behind their feelings.

Symbolism is something that we all hold dear. We all have things that symbolize something. In the Peanuts comic strip Linus' blue blanket symbolized security. For Christians, a cross necklace, or cross wall hanging symbolizes our salvation.

There are other forms of symbolism as well. I live in the South, and around here there are still many people that fly the Confederate flag. The Confederate flag can symbolize different things to different people. Some people see it as symbolizing our heritage--the strides we have made as a country. Other people see it as a symbol of oppression and slavery. The same flag, symbolizing totally different things.

The idea of symbolism makes me wonder, what symbolism am I portraying to other people when I fly my flag, or wear earring with peace signs. I love America, and I'm a huge supporter of our military--I want to do all I can to serve those that serve our country and that have said they are willing to make whatever sacrifice to keep America free and safe. That is what I want to portray, but is that the message that is coming across.

Some people see peace signs and they think about anti-war protests and those people that are anti-military. Some people see a flag and they wonder if the person flying it is genuine. Flags are a dime a dozen these days and not everyone that flies them is doing it out of a true, patriotic heart.

What are your thoughts on symbolism, and what some symbols that are important to you?

Monday, June 7, 2010

Anticipation

Once again I find myself in a state of anticipation. I'm looking forward to this weekend when my SO and I fly up to the midwest to see my sis, nephew, parents and attend the graduation party of one of my cousins. I'm looking forward to a few days out of the South.

Now, don't get me wrong, I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE Virginia. When I get back I'm going to become an official Virginian. But, it is always nice to get out of the normal and go for a short trip. Especially if that trip involves seeing family that I haven't seen in just about 1 year.

I'm also anticipating picking up my new to me car! My second ever car. It is great, beautiful and should be fun to drive, plus it has (get this...) 4 doors AND air conditioning!!!! I'm driving a pimped out car! So fancy!!!

The third thing I'm anticipating, and this is probably the biggest thing. I'm anticipating feeling better soon. My R.A. is acting up and now my throat or my tonsils, or something in that neighborhood is acting up, and that leaves me with ZERO energy and just plain feeling the yucks. No fun!

Anticipation is a good thing, it keeps us motivated on days that we just don't want to go on, but it can be a double edged sword. Anticipation can cause us to wish our lives away. We can get swept into the trap where we focus so much on what we are awaiting, that we miss the moments that God gives us in the present. That isn't a good thing.

We don't know that we will get what we are anticipating. God promises us eternity w/ Him, but He doesn't promise us our next heart beat. Anticipation can bring joy, and it is fun and good. We just need to be careful that we don't get so caught up in anticipating that we miss the here and now. Even, if what we are anticipating is Godly, we still have to handle it in a Christ honoring way.

What are you anticipating, and what are you doing to enjoy the anticipation, but to also stay grounded in the moments you have?