Sunday, January 11, 2009

Right Motives?

All counselors must figure out how to deal with the same thing. A person comes to you wanting advice, clearly needed help. You (the counselor) do your best to give the person good, sage advice, and the person walks out the door and you learn they didn't implement the advice you gave them. You might as well have been talking to a brick wall for all the good that the conversation did.

That scenario is called FRUSTRATION! But, it doesn't only happen to counselors, it happens in friendships as well. Counselors can deal with it, because it is the job, it is one of the downsides, knowing that people will not always listen. But, when it is a friendship it gets harder to deal with. It is hard, because you care about the other person and want to see only good things for them.

Yet, we are all in charge of our own lives. All I can do is live my life to the best of my ability and be the best Christian I can be. I can't live someone else's life for them, they have to. From time to time I may see that the choices they are making are not wise, but I can't force them to make new ones. The reverse is true as well...I don't always make the wisest decisions and people around me see that and they may wonder why I'm doing what I'm doing. Making stupid choices is part of being human.

I want to encourage us all to spend this week: Jan. 11-January 17 really examining the choices we make, and the process we go through. What is our underlying motivation? Why are we choosing that? It isn't the choice that is important, it is the reason behind the choice. If our reasoning is to honor God, than go for it, but if our reasoning is something else, let us to ponder if that choice is wise or not.

Happy decision making everyone and God bless us!

PRT/JLK

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